Abundance and Families
For many young people the world we live in today can seem to be a bewildering place. There is so much conflict, wars, intolerance and prejudice that is hardly surprising that they do not know which way to turn.
It is also a very exciting time to be alive as old, no-longer-serving, structures, organisations and beliefs are being swept away to make way for new and better conditions for everyone.
There is a lot of talk nowadays about the Law of Attraction and a lot of questions as to how we could have a created all of this in our world, and more importantly what to do about it.
The world around us today is a result of the thoughts, actions and intense emotions that we have had and focused upon over time. As we have put our attention on things such as war, conflict, terrorism, drugs, teenage pregnancy, internet stalkers and a whole host of other fear based things, we have seen them grow into monsters.
I believe that through consolidating the family unit and creating a stable, loving environment for children to grow and develop, then we will be well on our way to creating a better future for everyone.
The Law of Attraction is a powerful force in all this, because, as with everything, we create what we focus on.
If we choose to create an environment where there is total open and honest communication with each other and with ourselves, then that will show in our family life..
It is important to take an active interest, without interfering, in our children’s interests, from their music to their clothes, to their friends to sites they visit on the internet and talk to them about them.
We also need to stop molly-coddling and spoon-feeding them everything. Children and young people have inquiring minds and most teenagers have a very clear idea of their own personal tastes.
It is vital for children to be able to value themselves and to be able to make up their own minds, as well as to create a world where prejudices and barriers are broken down, war is no longer acceptable and people are valued for who they are. The first essential element is that children are taught to like, accept and value themselves for who they are
I believe that the current generation of teenagers are going to be the driving force for all of that. Our role as parents, I think, is to help them to blossom and grow within a stable environment.
As parents, guardians and teachers I believe there are a few vital life skills that we need to teach our children, or encourage them to find within themselves. The list is by no means exhaustive. It represents some of the things we as a family have found to be useful.
Life skills for parents and young people.
- Focus on the good in yourself, people and the world around you. The more you seek out love, kindness, appreciation, gratitude and peace, the more you will find it
- 5 good things about today. We introduced this at dinner time and it has made a huge difference to our family life. When we focus on what has been good about the day, then it puts us all in a better frame of mind to deal with any challenges that have arisen. Everyone has to listen to what the other people have to say without interrupting.
- Teach your children about possibilities and that you really can create your own reality. You can be, do and have whatever you in your life.
- Create a Vision board with all your goals, dreams, plans and look at it frequently. This is a great exercise to do as a family because it creates common aims that everyone is working towards.
- Do the things you love, rather than chasing the money.
- Allow your children to try out lots of different things as hobbies and activities without forcing them to stick with something they don’t like.
- Let your children pursue their own dreams rather than trying to make them live out your unfulfilled dreams.
- Teach them to be independent as early as possible, including being able to cook, to look after themselves and to manage their money.
- Teach them the importance of personal responsibility and that their actions will have consequences for themselves and for other people.
- Be prepared to let them try things for themselves and realise that there is really no such things as failure; there are only learnings and situations not turning out as they would like. Then you can evaluate what went well and what could be done differently next time.
- Plans may not work out and there may be disappointments, however that does make them any less lovable as people and it does not mean that life has come to an end and they cannot try again.
- Allow your children to have a voice, their own opinion and to be a part of family discussions. The more children and young people are involved with a project, the more likely they are to follow through and do what they have said they will do.
- In terms of matters such as sex, drugs, smoking talk to your children openly about these things and explain the dangers that might be on the internet or out on the world. Children need to know how to keep themselves safe, if necessary, without focusing on it.
- If you are wrong, please apologise. Adults are not right all the time. I have found that if you respect your children’s feelings, they will respect yours.
- Within the family is where children learn about love and relationships, about conditions placed on love between people, about negotiation and getting what you want, how conflict is dealt with. So set a good example. It can’t just be a case of “do as I say, don’t do as I do.”
- Observe your children, notice when they don’t seem quite happy and take the time to listen to then without judgement or criticism.
- Encourage them to be creative, whether that is drama, singing, writing, vision boards or research on a subject and be creative with them.
- Teach your children the power of language. Banish words such as “can’t, impossible, can’t be done, won’t work, should, have to, can’t afford it” and replace them with “How can I ..?” (and state the desired outcome) or “How could I…?”
Family and the Law of Attraction are really close to my heart. Greg, my husband and I have together for over 26 years and married for over 21 of them.
Greg and I started to Home Educate our girls in March of 2007 and it has been the best thing we ever did. We have seen our girls (18 and 20) blossom so much that they are both now physically taller than me!
One of my strongest values is laughter and fun, particularly as a means to learning and that is exactly what we are creating.
In this great time of change, we have to rely more and more on ourselves and less on external bodies, such as governments, to create the lives we desire. We do that through our personal choices, our language and who we choose to BE.
The greatest gift we can give our children is the space to BE themselves and the encouragement to pursue their dreams.
With abundant blessings.
Amanda Goldston is a HomeEducating parent, based in the UK. She is an Abundance Guide, with over 20 years of empowering people to find the Greatness within themselves.
©Amanda Goldston 2008